Wednesday, June 4, 2008

How Do You Say NO....

   How do you say no to people who won't take NO for an answer?

   Jan means well, but her enthusiasm blinds her to what others are thinking.  She wants this year's Fourth of July activity to outshine last years.  Last year we had wonderful fireworks, but a long dull, uncoordinated waiting period.  Darkness comes slowly in July. No need shooting off pretty displays before 9 PM.  And the old folks usually go to bed by eight.  Waiting until 9 is an ordeal. Year before last we shot off the fireworks in the daylight.  What a waste that was.

   Jan wants community singing before the fireworks, and will not take no for an answer. She expects me to provide the keyboard and amplifier and when I said I couldn't, she ignored that and said Of course I could.

   This  year I am wracked by pain, and loaded with pain pills.  I am so weak I have to call for help to pull up my pants.  But I am supposed to provide the amplifier.

   When next I see Jan I will say, "Here is the amplifier, here is the keyboard...take them NOW. Practice hooking them up before the fourth so you can run to Radio Shack and get the patch cords you need. They will be closed on the Fourth."

   Jan took the address of this Blog.  Maybe she will read this and understand that N  O means No.

DONE...She was delighted wth the keyboard and the amplifier and went off happily to Radio Shack for the patch cords needed.  It is going to be a delightful fourth of July Pageant after all.

12 comments:

garnett109 said...

when your not up to your not up to it, jan needs to calm down

jeadie05 said...

Other than me... WHO  is Jan!  because she expects to much of you ....love  Jan xx

peytonswater said...

Your right, some just don't say no, even those we love.  Because of this they are stepping out of there boundries and invading ours.  No means NO.  You have said what you can and don't budge, your not up to it.
Hugs
Ang

sybiljb said...

Chuck you did the right thing  let them provide the music since you aren't feeling well. I hope you get better soon. Sib-

madcobug said...

I can't stand people who are so pushy. Good for you telling her no when you don't feel up to it. 9:00 is to late for older folks to be up anyway. She should realize that you don't feel up to it without you having to tell her. She must be the activities director. Helen

kateh2ocolorart said...

Give Jan cousin Joyce's number, she will coordinate with her.

tendernoggle said...

CHUCK, SHE SHOULD REALIZE WHEN YOU SAY NO....THAT IS WHAT YOU MEAN.....I HOPE SHE READS THIS AND LEAVES YOU ALONE.
GOD BLESS,
CARLENE

plieck30 said...

If you read this Jan listen to what Chuck is saying to you. He doesn't feel up to it. He is our friend and we understand his limitations. Paula

irjoyce said...

Give Jan cousin Joyce's number, she will coordinate with her.

Cousin Joyce says it seems as though Independence Day should be a party!  We probably won't all trek to Atwater for the spectacular fireworks display viewed from our backyard because the display will be held at Buhach HS this year, BUT we can still have homemade ice cream sundaes with sparklers at any time!

Hugs!

valphish said...

Oh, I know some people who never take no for an answer.  ACK!  I also know people who talk right through you while you are speaking.  Boy do I hate that.  Stand up for yourself, especially while you are ill.  It sounds like you are doing that.  Love you, Chuck!  Love, Val xox
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/ThereisaSeason
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/JoyInTheRain
I have some jokes in my new journal, Joy In The Rain, Chuck!

valphish said...

Oh, I know some people who never take no for an answer.  ACK!  I also know people who talk right through you while you are speaking.  Boy do I hate that.  Stand up for yourself, especially while you are ill.  It sounds like you are doing that.  Love you, Chuck!  Love, Val xox
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/ThereisaSeason
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/JoyInTheRain
I have some jokes in my new journal, Joy In The Rain, Chuck!

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((CHUCK))))))))))))))))))))))))))I know what you mean about saying no.She should have listen to you,when you said no.